Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Ethical Dilemma

I guess it's not really an ethical dilemma. I'm being over-dramatic (I must get it from Paige). I want to cut my hair. I want to cut a big chunk of it off. I like my hair shorter. Not super short. Just chin length short. It's hair it grows right?

The dilemma part is my husband. He has it stuck in his mind that he likes long hair (poor fool). The funny thing is, is that when I met him I had short hair. When we were engaged I had short hair and when we were married I had short hair. He always survives when I get my hair cut, but it doesn't take the guilties away from me.

Anyone who knows Adam knows he asks VERY LITTLE of me. He is easily pleased and never requests anything. Except for this. Not that he even "requests" it. But when the subject of me cutting my hair comes up (which is daily at this point), he just looks at my hair longingly and says I do like your hair long, or I've always preferred long hair (wow look at my major run on incorrectly written sentence. English majors ignore please).

So I tried to get around the cutting it, by just coloring it (besides the fact that I wouldn't let that women come near my hair with scissors). I LOVE the color and it really has helped my "I feel sexy" factor, but I still long to have it cut. I just feel prettier with shorter hair. I feel like I look my age. I'm 27. I want to feel young, look young (we all already know I act young). It's hard sometimes to feel sexy with four monsters.

I am not good at that whole "Husband comes home to beautiful family, clean house, dinner waiting and hot and sexy mama wearing stunning apron and high heels."

Adam walks into: Running children, Naked Tommy, Baby Crying, Dinner? What's That?, Kelly whining, Paige singing, hot and Sweaty mama wearing pajamas and a leg brace with old teal crocs on.

So do I actually think a haircut will suddenly make the planets align so that I can now accomplish all of my "over-achieving goals" for the day. YES I do. I think it will make a difference.

I think I have to remember how super beautiful I am, before it's too late. I don't want to wake up one morning when all of my children have gone off to school and realize that I have forgotten to take care of myself. I'm more important then that, and Adam deserves a wife who loves herself as much as he loves me... and he loves me alot, so that's alot of Jen-Loving I've got to start having.

Ethical Dilemma Solved. Thank you for your time.

17 comments:

RitterB's said...

I run into the same problemo with my Marc-A-Roni... He likes it long I look much better with it short... So Once again I am trying to grow my short hair. It is a crazy hair cycle I live! Guess you live it too!

aLi said...

At least you have it figured out! I still can't decide what to do with my hair. It is absolutely a mess. I've got the post-partum hair that falls out like crazy, roots showing, and misshapen lines in my hair. Needless to say, it's time for action.

I'm glad you don't let Adam control how you do your hair. YOU'RE the one who has to live with it!

KC Kanenwishers said...

I'm glad you worked that out for yourself! Self bloggin' therapy works real well. I think this is a common dilemma of us wanna be pleaser wives. I probably disappointed Boyd for many years, although I was never really certain I knew what he wanted. So, then I go get extensions and I still don't know. Go figure. I think it's just the "idea" of them wanting us to have long hair but they really don't care when it comes down to it. You've got to love your own hair otherwise you are always uncomfortable and worrying about it...that's my motto. Love your hair.

Amy R said...

So glad we could help you solve your dilemma:0) You said it-- hair grows.

Jennifer said...

I personally like your hair shorter--it matches you better. Just don't get any crazy ideas with your bangs!

K2 said...

I say do what makes YOU feel good. I agree with your statement that Adam deserves someone who loves themselves. We women have to shake it up once in a while and hair is one way to do that in Mormon-dom.

Aby Runyan said...

Alright. I'll go ahead and be the bad guy. This is a role I tend to OFTEN play. I'M the one who sends back food, I'M the one who honks at idiotic drivers, I'M the one who is going to have to take Adam's side on this one.

I like long hair too.

Not that short hair isn't cute, it totally is. I've even had VERY short hair myself. But in the end, I always vote for long hair. I just like hair that looks a little wild, a little messy and a little long. I KNOW that styled hair technically looks better, but still. . . I can't help it. I guess it's the little hippy in me.
luvs, aby

The Divine Miss A said...

So now you'll be okay with my news. I just got my hair cut yesterday.

Actually I did. But I still think I might be growing it out. I asked my lovely hair lady to cut it in a way that I could go for awhile without coming in. I think I will actually try to keep growing it out, though.

The Divine Miss A said...

But yes, you should feel free to cut your hair short. You look great however it is.

emily and adrian said...

You can do what I did years ago....just shave it all off.
DO what makes you happy...to me, that is sexy!
Get a long wig or those clip on extensions for Adam....ooo, get the platinum blonde ones.
Can't wait to see it!

Shortcake and Company said...

I think if you told Adam what you wrote (which you probably have) that he'd totally be for it. I'll watch for the new, sassy short do soon.

Emily said...

So I was about to leave a comment on your blog when I was so rudely interrupted by a laughing oaf.

Anyway...I love your hair short! It looks super cute at chin length.

Just remind Adam that short isn't a bad thing. (that's what she said).
You'll spend so much less time styling and blow drying. Think of all the time you'll have to donate to finding those heels and strapping on that apron. :)

Nonnie said...

Cut it !!!!!!

Holly said...

I think it was totally cute when it was shorter back in our Singles Ward days. (I just chopped mine off last week, so i am pro-short hair right now.)

elizabeth said...

So you're saying you cut your hair, or you want to? I'm confused. I guess I could just run next door to check.

Meg said...

I think you should just get a big wad of gum "accidentally" stuck in it so you have to cut it off; then cry to Adam how you're so upset because you really wanted to grow it out long just for him and you feel like such a failure and he'll be all sympathetic and make dinner for the next few nights because he feels bad and he'll say how much he loves short hair and so on...

does Adam read these comments?

Sam Ransom said...

I'm a short hair all the way. I did have long hair when James and I met, but haven't the whole time we've been married. He has finally given up. Also I NEVER do my hair when it is long. It takes forever. So I can do it all cute and sassy short and that always makes me feel better!